Week 5  The Educational Layer: Misunderstood Intelligence   Peel again, and we find the classroom. For many Deaf children, and for many who are also autistic or ADHD, school is the first place where the story of being “misunderstood” begins. Intelligence, for them, is often measured by how closely they can fit into hearing norms or neurotypical expectations by how well they perform within systems never designed with their minds, rhythms, or languages in mind. A Deaf child ma

"You're smart. You just need to work harder." If you've heard this—or said it to someone—you know it feels good and bad at the same time. For millions of people with learning disabilities, ADHD, and Autism, this phrase doesn't help. It's a lie that stays with them for years. It says their problems are their fault. That if they just tried harder, everything would be okay. But learning disabilities, ADHD, and Autism don't work that way. Why This Label Is So Damaging When you te

Week 4  The Layer of Belonging: The Space Where We Breathe   The next layer we reach is the social one, the profoundly human need to belong . To be Deaf, to be autistic, to live with ADHD, often means standing at the edge of conversations that move in unfamiliar rhythms. It can mean being the only one signing in a sea of spoken words, the only one pausing to process while others rush ahead, the only one whose timing and energy seem out of sync with everyone else’s. That diffe

Week 3  The Layer of Communication: Expression and Understanding   Peel back another layer, and we arrive at the heart of interaction: how we communicate.  At the surface, many people assume that “communication” simply means speaking and listening that it begins with sound and ends with words. But that is only one narrow slice of the vast landscape of human expression. Real communication is richer, broader, and infinitely more nuanced. It lives not just in the voice or the ea